As it turned out, I did have something planned for the night the guy who would become my husband asked me out.
It was my friend's birthday party.
Me and a couple of the girls, including the birthday girl, got together to decorate our masks for the event. I told them, "I have to leave early because I have a date."
"Bring him!" they said.
Me: "Uh... I don't know if it's really his thing, but I'll ask him."
I asked him. He said he'd go.
Another thing you need to know about me: I love dressing up. Halloween, Renaissance Festival, my friend's masquerade party... yeah. I'm so game. My husband is the exact opposite. His idea of a Halloween costume is... well... nothing at all. I mean, just regular clothes.
He wouldn't be caught dead in a costume. That is, except when he was trying to impress a girl. Me.
He came with me to the masquerade in a white button-up shirt and black dress pants and a Phantom of the Opera mask. This was all on my suggestion. The mask was kind of cheap-o and kept digging into his face.
Poor guy. The things we do for love.
So we go to the masquerade party. I'm all decked out in this:
Funny story... even though my hair is this long now, in the picture, the hair is fake.
The party. Ah, the party. 100% super awkward. Made worse when my outspoken friend told us to go dance. This is our first date, we barely know each other, we're weird as it is because of our costumes, and my date hasn't slow danced with a girl since before his days teaching the gospel in Germany.
It could have been a disaster had it not been for racket ball.
After the dancing, a little mingling, and more awkward!, we changed clothes and went to play racket ball.
I'm not athletic. I wasn't looking forward to playing a sport, even though I pretended I was. We girls know how to fake it when we're not enthused about the planned activity... especially when we REALLY like the guy.
We played racket ball. I lost. By a lot. But I had a blast.
I had so much fun just hitting the ball around and talking to my date and laughing and figuring out how much we had in common.
We went to Sonic for shakes after racket ball and stayed out till 2 a.m. talking.
And I knew... not that I was going to marry the guy... but I knew that there was something special about him. I had a great time just being there. It didn't matter what we were doing, whether it was feeling ridiculous at a masquerade party or deciding to quit keeping score at racket ball.
Would he ask me out again?
Part three in the next post.